Am I being a control freak mom?

I think it is great that your baby has so many loving people in his/her life. The baby knows who Mommy is and no matter how much he/she loves Grandma will still love you the "best". Your husband has a different parenting style but that doesn't mean it is better or worse than your own. RElax a little and don't let your Mommy guilt get in the way of your child's bond with ALL the people who love him/her.